Proverbs 31:30 (NIV). Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised..
Do you want to find a really good woman? Look for one who honors and reveres the LORD with all of her heart, soul, mind, and strength. Appearance, physical strength, and even personality can change and degrade.
BUT a woman whose heart is anchored and enlivened by the presence of God in her life will be a life-long blessing and a woman worthy of our praise, and the praise of her God.
Verse 25 and 26 says "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue". Sadly, most women of our time are beginning to lack this virtues but he who searches well will surely find that rare jewel.
In conclusion, verse 10 says "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies". Never rest and plead your case with God to help you search out this true damsel for only Him truly knows the hearts of all..
Remain richly blessed..
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Friday, March 18, 2011
Infidelity In Married Couples
What are the main causes of increase in infidelity between married couples?
ANSWER:
Hi Mulash, Infidelity can be seen as one being unfaithful to his/her sexual partner and there really has been an increase of this vice in many marriages. Some of the causes of infidelity can be seen as follows:
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction: This occurs when one or both partners do not feel sexually satisfied during and after intercourse with the other partner.
2. Money: This happens when one falls prey to a man/woman outside the matrimonial home who offers to settle all their bills if only they will do what he/she asks from them and most times, it’s sex.
3. Greed: This is the insatiable desire in people to possess all things against all odds and they don’t mind the length they go to get it even if it means being unfaithful to their marriage partner.
4. Influence of friends: The kind of friends one keep after marriage can also push him/her into becoming unfaithful to his/her marriage partner.
Regardless of these causes, the major reason infidelity is on the increase is LACK OF CONTENTMENT. We are not content with what we have and there’s nothing the enemy loves as a greedy heart. It serves as an avenue for other vices such as adultery, fornication, stealing, cheating, lying, etc.
The Bible tells us that Godliness with contentment is great gain.
Remain richly blessed..
ANSWER:
Hi Mulash, Infidelity can be seen as one being unfaithful to his/her sexual partner and there really has been an increase of this vice in many marriages. Some of the causes of infidelity can be seen as follows:
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction: This occurs when one or both partners do not feel sexually satisfied during and after intercourse with the other partner.
2. Money: This happens when one falls prey to a man/woman outside the matrimonial home who offers to settle all their bills if only they will do what he/she asks from them and most times, it’s sex.
3. Greed: This is the insatiable desire in people to possess all things against all odds and they don’t mind the length they go to get it even if it means being unfaithful to their marriage partner.
4. Influence of friends: The kind of friends one keep after marriage can also push him/her into becoming unfaithful to his/her marriage partner.
Regardless of these causes, the major reason infidelity is on the increase is LACK OF CONTENTMENT. We are not content with what we have and there’s nothing the enemy loves as a greedy heart. It serves as an avenue for other vices such as adultery, fornication, stealing, cheating, lying, etc.
The Bible tells us that Godliness with contentment is great gain.
Remain richly blessed..
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Why Do Ladies Prefer Money To Love?
Bigger percentage of females are after money and earthly possessions! why are they not guided by love and affection?
ANSWER:
Thanks Mulash for your question. It’s like asking why people commit sin. Majority of people – even believers – pursue earthly things and the riches and glory of this world more than they pursue the things of God’s kingdom.
Most ladies go after money and earthly possessions because, sadly, they believe (in the deceit) that material things will solve all their problems making Heaven here on earth for them (which can never be, but they don’t know this).
So when you present love and affection to them, they see it as if you’re offering “suffering” to them. The devil has succeeding in blinding their eyes to the things that matters most.
How can one be guided by what they rejected. When we refuse God’s love and affection (mostly unconsciously), we cannot easily accept true love and affection from our fellow beings because we have eyes but sadly do not really see with them.
But as a Christian brother, you will recognize a true sister by her values; what she thinks about money and earthly possessions. These things are good to have BUT they should never be our focus in life.
May we all seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto us.
Remain richly blessed..
ANSWER:
Thanks Mulash for your question. It’s like asking why people commit sin. Majority of people – even believers – pursue earthly things and the riches and glory of this world more than they pursue the things of God’s kingdom.
Most ladies go after money and earthly possessions because, sadly, they believe (in the deceit) that material things will solve all their problems making Heaven here on earth for them (which can never be, but they don’t know this).
So when you present love and affection to them, they see it as if you’re offering “suffering” to them. The devil has succeeding in blinding their eyes to the things that matters most.
How can one be guided by what they rejected. When we refuse God’s love and affection (mostly unconsciously), we cannot easily accept true love and affection from our fellow beings because we have eyes but sadly do not really see with them.
But as a Christian brother, you will recognize a true sister by her values; what she thinks about money and earthly possessions. These things are good to have BUT they should never be our focus in life.
May we all seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto us.
Remain richly blessed..
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
(For The Ladies)..The Man I Prayed For
Dear God, I prayed,
all unafraid (as we're inclined to do)
I do not need a handsome man
but let him be like You;
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
nor need he be some genius,
or wealthy, Lord at all;
but let his head be high dear Lord,
and let his eyes be clear,
his shoulders straight, whatever his state,
whatever his earthly sphere;
And let his life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal;
then when he comes (as he will come)
with eyes aglow;
I'll understand that he's the man
I prayed for long ago..
A Poem By Ruth Graham
all unafraid (as we're inclined to do)
I do not need a handsome man
but let him be like You;
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
nor need he be some genius,
or wealthy, Lord at all;
but let his head be high dear Lord,
and let his eyes be clear,
his shoulders straight, whatever his state,
whatever his earthly sphere;
And let his life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal;
then when he comes (as he will come)
with eyes aglow;
I'll understand that he's the man
I prayed for long ago..
A Poem By Ruth Graham
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Knowing Your True Love
How can someone know his or her true love?
ANSWER:
Dear Kenny, thanks for visiting and dropping your question here. Finding or knowing your true love is one of the hardest things for humans to achieve. Many people have given so many formulas and at the end, heartbreaks still occur. This happens because we have refused to consult the author of love whose name is God.
The only way of knowing true love for sure is when you allow God to reveal the heart of those who profess to love you and you do this, not by following your feelings/emotions cos they mislead most times but by humbly praying and asking God for wisdom to know the right person.
The last issue I treated on the acronym of the words "I LOVE YOU" will equally be of help to you. Let me summarize it a bit for you:
I stands for INTEGRITY - anyone who professes to love you cannot cheat on and lie to you.
L stands for LISTEN - he/she must listen well and must pay attention when being talked to.
O stands for OBEDIENCE - must be obedient to you whether you are the elder or younger one.
V stands for VALUE - anyone who professes to love you must value you and be honest too.
E stands for ENDURANCE - true love endureth all things(no room for impatience).
Y stands for YEARN - to yearn means to be compassionate and filled with tenderness not lust.
O stands for OPENHANDED - must not be stingy with money, time, energy, intellect etc.
U stands for UPRIGHT - must be upright and accountable in all things.
This may look like a fantasy but it's not. The person must not be perfect in all of them but must exceed at least 60% in these virtues and it's only those whose lives are hidden in Christ that have these attributes so in essence, only "genuine" not fake born-again Christians can really show true love to others.
The surest and best way of knowing your true love is by allowing God to search the hearts of those who profess to love you and give you the genuine one among them or someone else entirely. But you should be prepared to wait on Him and forsake all sins.
Remain richly blessed dear
ANSWER:
Dear Kenny, thanks for visiting and dropping your question here. Finding or knowing your true love is one of the hardest things for humans to achieve. Many people have given so many formulas and at the end, heartbreaks still occur. This happens because we have refused to consult the author of love whose name is God.
The only way of knowing true love for sure is when you allow God to reveal the heart of those who profess to love you and you do this, not by following your feelings/emotions cos they mislead most times but by humbly praying and asking God for wisdom to know the right person.
The last issue I treated on the acronym of the words "I LOVE YOU" will equally be of help to you. Let me summarize it a bit for you:
I stands for INTEGRITY - anyone who professes to love you cannot cheat on and lie to you.
L stands for LISTEN - he/she must listen well and must pay attention when being talked to.
O stands for OBEDIENCE - must be obedient to you whether you are the elder or younger one.
V stands for VALUE - anyone who professes to love you must value you and be honest too.
E stands for ENDURANCE - true love endureth all things(no room for impatience).
Y stands for YEARN - to yearn means to be compassionate and filled with tenderness not lust.
O stands for OPENHANDED - must not be stingy with money, time, energy, intellect etc.
U stands for UPRIGHT - must be upright and accountable in all things.
This may look like a fantasy but it's not. The person must not be perfect in all of them but must exceed at least 60% in these virtues and it's only those whose lives are hidden in Christ that have these attributes so in essence, only "genuine" not fake born-again Christians can really show true love to others.
The surest and best way of knowing your true love is by allowing God to search the hearts of those who profess to love you and give you the genuine one among them or someone else entirely. But you should be prepared to wait on Him and forsake all sins.
Remain richly blessed dear
Monday, March 14, 2011
Anything Like Christian "Romancing"?
Is it right for a christian brother to be in a relationship with a girl and also to romance a girl?
ANSWER:
The answer is NO. It is not right for a Christian brother to be in a relationship with a girl except both of you are in a courtship agreement. A Christian brother can have lady friends who should be treated as sisters in the Lord. But when it comes to picking a particular sister for a relationship, it becomes very risky because you are not yet ready or you cannot guarantee that you must marry her.
Secondly, romancing a girl should not be in the dictionary of any body who calls himself a Christian brother(the same applies to all Christian ladies). The girl's body as well as your own is God's property/temple and we are all bought at a price which is the blood of Jesus Christ.
Never go beyond boundaries. Treat her as a sister with all purity(1Tim.5:1-2) because the Bible warns that anyone who defiles the temple of God, him shall God destroy(1Cor.3:16-17). Please do not use your today to spoil or destroy your tomorrow. Be holy even as your Heavenly Father is holy.
Matthew 5:27-30, Luke 16:12 and 1Thess.4:3-7 will also help you to understand the stand a Christian ought to take in these matters. Submit all desires to God and He will help you overcome those temptations. Flee from fornication, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
Remain richly blessed..
ANSWER:
The answer is NO. It is not right for a Christian brother to be in a relationship with a girl except both of you are in a courtship agreement. A Christian brother can have lady friends who should be treated as sisters in the Lord. But when it comes to picking a particular sister for a relationship, it becomes very risky because you are not yet ready or you cannot guarantee that you must marry her.
Secondly, romancing a girl should not be in the dictionary of any body who calls himself a Christian brother(the same applies to all Christian ladies). The girl's body as well as your own is God's property/temple and we are all bought at a price which is the blood of Jesus Christ.
Never go beyond boundaries. Treat her as a sister with all purity(1Tim.5:1-2) because the Bible warns that anyone who defiles the temple of God, him shall God destroy(1Cor.3:16-17). Please do not use your today to spoil or destroy your tomorrow. Be holy even as your Heavenly Father is holy.
Matthew 5:27-30, Luke 16:12 and 1Thess.4:3-7 will also help you to understand the stand a Christian ought to take in these matters. Submit all desires to God and He will help you overcome those temptations. Flee from fornication, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
Remain richly blessed..
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Accepting A Proposal From A Lady
SHOULD I ACCEPT A PROPOSAL FROM MY CHRISTIAN SISTER AS WE WILL ALL BE 23 YEARS THIS YEAR?
ANSWER:
Hi Emma,
I appreciate your honesty about listing your ages. First of all, I do not believe that a lady should propose to you. You are the one to do the proposing because the Bible records in the book of Proverbs that “He” who finds a wife, not “she” and It also said in Genesis that “a man” will leave his parents and cleave to his wife not “a woman”.
Secondly, I will advise you to hold on a bit and pray more because your age is quite tender for marriage deliberations if you get what I mean. Are you really and fully ready to marry now at the age of twenty-three(23)?
Remember, a man must leave his parents and cleave unto his wife. Do you stay alone in your own apartment? Do you have a steady job with which you can maintain or take care of a family? Are you both established in the faith?
The lady might truly be God’s will for you in marriage when you pray about it BUT your home may still be full of troubles if both of you are not yet matured in the Lord. Wisdom needs to be applied in every stage of our lives.
Remain richly blessed..
ANSWER:
Hi Emma,
I appreciate your honesty about listing your ages. First of all, I do not believe that a lady should propose to you. You are the one to do the proposing because the Bible records in the book of Proverbs that “He” who finds a wife, not “she” and It also said in Genesis that “a man” will leave his parents and cleave to his wife not “a woman”.
Secondly, I will advise you to hold on a bit and pray more because your age is quite tender for marriage deliberations if you get what I mean. Are you really and fully ready to marry now at the age of twenty-three(23)?
Remember, a man must leave his parents and cleave unto his wife. Do you stay alone in your own apartment? Do you have a steady job with which you can maintain or take care of a family? Are you both established in the faith?
The lady might truly be God’s will for you in marriage when you pray about it BUT your home may still be full of troubles if both of you are not yet matured in the Lord. Wisdom needs to be applied in every stage of our lives.
Remain richly blessed..
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Who Has The Final Say On Who We Marry? Parents?
SHOULD ONES PARENTS DECIDE THE ONE TO MARRY OR BE MARRIED BY?
ANSWER:
The answer to your question Paul, is NO. Our parents are not to decide who we must marry even though their advice is very necessary and important. As Christians, God has the final say on who we are to marry and not our parents.
But that does not mean we are to disobey our parents outrightly. If we are sure God has approved of someone we wish to marry and yet, our parent(s) are still opposing it, we are not to forcefully do what we want but it calls for more prayers so that God can turn their hearts cos the hearts of kings are in His hands.
Our parents objecting to our choice of a partner and deciding who we are to marry sometimes (though not very often) can be God directing us too but we must pray about it so God can fully reveal His plans for our lives.
Remain richly blessed..
ANSWER:
The answer to your question Paul, is NO. Our parents are not to decide who we must marry even though their advice is very necessary and important. As Christians, God has the final say on who we are to marry and not our parents.
But that does not mean we are to disobey our parents outrightly. If we are sure God has approved of someone we wish to marry and yet, our parent(s) are still opposing it, we are not to forcefully do what we want but it calls for more prayers so that God can turn their hearts cos the hearts of kings are in His hands.
Our parents objecting to our choice of a partner and deciding who we are to marry sometimes (though not very often) can be God directing us too but we must pray about it so God can fully reveal His plans for our lives.
Remain richly blessed..
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