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Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Ten Lies Of Pornography – Conclusion(3)

Porn Addiction: Am I Addicted?

If You See Any Of These Patterns In Your Life, You Need To Put The Brakes On Right Now! Is Porn Becoming More And More In Control Of Your Life? Do You Have Trouble Putting It Down(Magazines) Or Switching It Off(TV/Computer etc.)? Do You Keep Going Back For More?

What Can I Do?
The First Thing You've Got To Do Is Admit That You Struggle With Pornography. Believe Me; You Are Not Strange Or Unusual If You Do. Millions Of Men And Women Are At Various Stages In Their Struggle With Porn. It's Really Not Surprising. 

The Porn Industry Has Spent Billions Of Dollars Trying To Snare You. Is It Really Shocking That They Have Succeeded? For Some Of You There May

Monday, April 20, 2015

He Stopped Communicating With Me, I Mistakenly Lost My Virginity With Another Man, Now He’s Back And Wants To Marry Me But Blames Me For My Lost Virginity. What Should I Do?

Dear Beloved, Please Help A Friend In Need: My Fiancé Is In A State Of Bitterness. I And My Fiancé Has Been In A Very Good Relationship For Many Years Now. He Was A Very Nice And God Fearing Person. We Grew To Love Each Other. All Through Those Times He Knew I Was A Virgin And Encouraged Me To Keep It. Then All Of A Sudden He Stopped Communicating With Me And Didn't Respond To My Messages. This Went On For Long And I Became Broken Hearted Because He Was The Best Friend I Had Then. I Confided In Matured People Even My Mum And They Told Me To Move On With My Life Which I Reluctantly Did. Someone Else In My Church Approached Me For Dating, I Refused Initially But Had To Accept – Not Because I Was Really Interested But To Get My Lost Friend Out Of My Mind. All Throughout The Period Of Dating My Present Man, I Was Emotionally Unbalanced. One Day, One Thing Led To Another And He Had Sex With Me, I Was So Full Of Regrets After That Day, The Feeling I Had Was Awful. I Had To Leave Him Because He Turned Out To Be Someone I Never Desired – He Was Just The Opposite Of My Other Guy. Immediately I Left Him Still In Pain Of Giving Myself To Him, My Other Friend Re-Surfaced Back With Excuses Of How He Was Struggling To Be A Man To Come Back And Settle Down With Me. He Then Asked If I Was A Virgin, I Couldn’t Stand The Shame And Reaction From Him So I Had To Lie. After A Year, He Proposed, I Still Couldn’t Tell Him Out Of Fear. We Were Preparing For Our Marriage And I Decided To Pay Him A Visit With My Parent's Consent. One Thing Led To Another, He Had Sex With Me And Found Out. I Had To Confess And Told Him Everything. After Some Time He Forgave Me And He Is Pushing On With The Marriage But He Hasn't Been Himself. He Is Bitter, Brings Up The Past And Falls Sick From Time To Time. I Have Made Peace With God Long Ago But I Can’t Forgive Myself For Hurting Him This Way. He Is Resenting Me, He Said He Can’t Get The Thought Out Of His Mind, And That It Will Forever Live With Him, That Things Might Not Be The Way It Use To Be And Lots Of Other Things. He Said There Is Nothing I Can Do Cos I’ve Lost His Most Cherished Gift To Another Man. I Am Full Of Regrets Now. I Haven’t Been With Any Man Since Then, I Wished It Was Him But It Wasn’t Intentional. If Only He Didn’t Go, I Might Not Have Even Had Anything To Do With Another Man. I Am So Confused. What Can I Ever Do Again? I Have Prayed To God To Forgive Me And Heal Him. I Don't Know What To Do. I Only Cry And Pray Day And Night.

My Dear Sister, Your Story Is A Long One But I Couldn’t Cut Much Out Because It’s Really A Heavy Burden From/In Your Heart.  A Man That Is Really Interested In Marrying You Will Not Just Disappear Like That For A Long Time Without Keeping In Touch With You – The Excuse Of Struggling To Be A Man So He Can Come And Marry You Does Not Really Make Much Sense.

What If He Returned And Met You Married, Wouldn’t He Have Continued With His Life? To Now Blame You And Refuse To Forgive You Of Your Past Because You Lost Your Virginity In The Process Is Quite A Harsh Judgement. Am I Exonerating You? NO! But Like