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Friday, April 29, 2011

Love Quotes For Your Weekend(6)..

True LOVE comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells distinctly, get your ears checked..

For one human being to LOVE another, that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but a preparation..

It is an extra dividend when you like the girl you have fallen in LOVE with..

LOVE is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could..

A coward is incapable of exhibiting LOVE; it is the prerogative of the brave..

I never knew how to worship until I knew LOVE..

Remain richly blessed and enjoy your weekend..

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Battling With Pornography And Masturbation..

Dear beloved I am a guy of 23 years and have been battling with this issue of viewing pornography materials and masturbating for the past 4 years. I try all I could to stop but it proved futile. After the act, I feel guilt, will ask God for forgiveness and later repeat the process again. I AM REALLY TROUBLED AND DON'T KNOW THE WAY OUT.PLEASE HELP OF OUT.THANK YOU

Hi Freedom fighter, I’ll start by really commending you for your courage in coming out with and confessing this act because satan has used pornography and masturbation to hold a lot of people especially believers in bondage. This is a huge slap to the kingdom of darkness and I also want to assure you that confessing your weakness and seeking help/counsel is the first step to your victory.

One thing you have to understand is the fact that you can’t win this battle by your own strength. When the urge to view pornographic materials or to masturbate comes, start praying and cry out to God the Holy Spirit in you to strengthen you so you can resist that urge/temptation.

The Bible guarantees that our cry for help will be heard because Jesus is sympathetic to our struggle. He faced the same kind of problems we do. He “understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same temptations we do, yet he did not sin.” (Hebrews 4:15 NLT)

God is waiting to help you, why don’t you turn constantly and daily to Him more often? Honestly, you can’t do anything apart from Him! I know that sometimes, you might be embarrassed to ask God for help. But the Bible says, “Let us have confidence, then, and approach God’s throne, where there is grace. There we will receive mercy and find grace to help us just when we need it.” (Hebrews 4:16 TEV)

God’s love is everlasting, and his patience endures forever. Ask him for help and then watch how He will help you overcome this temptation because He has already made a way out for you. Don't lose hope and never stop praying. It might not stop today but believe in your heart that God has started His work in you.

You can also check my blog archive to see where I fully treated a question closely related to yours. The title of the question in the blog archive is “In The Grip Of Pornography And Masturbation”

Remain richly blessed dear..

Ten Errors Singles Waiting-On-God Make(2)..

Continuing To Engage In Any Form Of Sex Outside Marriage

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is outside the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which you have of God, and ye are not your own?” (verses 18-19 kjv)

Sexual immorality is the greatest weakness of most single believers. We tend to think that sex is used to prove our love for our partners in a relationship but according to the verses above, all other sins you commit are outside your body, but when you sin sexually, you sin against your own body.

You may say that you don’t engage in sex yet you caress or allow your partner to caress you intimately, watching pornographic films that corrupt your mind, masturbating, practicing homosexuality/lesbianism etc. they are all included in sexual immorality.

Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and as such should not be defiled in anyway and in whatever form.

You have the power to discipline your emotions and body while waiting for the right person because you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.

Remain richly blessed..

Monday, April 25, 2011

Can Someone Mistakenly Marry His/Her Relation?

I have always asked this question whenever the issue of incest arises. Who determines how far removed from your bloodline a person has to be before you can marry them? What if, for some twist of fate or another, two strangers meet and grow to love themselves only to discover that they are second cousins? Considering that we all are from the same parentage (Adam and Eve), from what geneological divide is marriage "allowed" and how is it determined?

Thanks Maxyclass for visiting my blog. I can only answer your question to the best of my ability because it’s a bit ‘mind-boggling’. When it comes to who determines how far removed from your bloodline a person has to be before you can marry them, I believe it is the responsibility of your kins-men.

In my area, there’s a limit to who one marries and it is the parents’ responsibility to pass on these ‘off-limits’ to their children on time and they also check the bloodline of any potential suitor to make sure they’re not related before they can give the go-ahead.

In your second question, the way to avoid such from happening is by being inquisitive from the first day. The person’s state of origin and town/village should have a link to either of your parents’ town/village. But when the tracing becomes so blurred at the beginning of that relationship, the Holy Spirit in you sounds the alarm if you’re in tune with Him.

Then coming to your last question, I can only say that it is still the responsibility of your kins-men in the village and they themselves know how it is determined but I also believe that most of them can freely share the information on how it is determined with you.

Finally, in all, I strongly believe the Holy Spirit knows best and can also help check us when we want to make any mistake by unknowingly dating or falling in love with someone in our bloodline because He knows and sees what we do not know and might never see.

Remain richly blessed dear..

Friday, April 22, 2011

Jesus' Love Letter..

As we celebrate Easter, here's a letter from our Lord Jesus Christ for YOU..

Dear Friend,
How are you? I just had to send you a note to tell you how much I care about you. I saw you yesterday as you were talking with your friends; I waited all all day hoping you’ll want to talk with me, too.

I gave you a sunset to close your day and a cool breeze to rest you, and I waited.
You never came. It hurt me – but I still love you because I am your friend.

I saw you sleeping last night and longed to touch your brow, so I spilled moonlight upon your face. Again I waited, wanting to rush down so we could talk. I have so many gifts for you!
You awoke and rushed off to work.

My tears were in the rain if only you would listen to me! I tried to tell you in blue skies and in the quiet green grass. I whisper in the leaves on the trees and breathe in the colour of the flowers; shout it to you in the mountain streams; give the birds love songs to sing. I clothe you in warm sunshine and perfume the air with nature scent.

My love for you is deeper than the ocean, and bigger than the biggest need in your heart! Ask me! Talk with me! Please don’t forget me, I have so much to share with you! I won’t trouble you any further.

It is your decision. I have chosen you, and I still wait because I love you.
Yours friend,

Remain richly blessed as I wish you a lovely EASTER celebrations..

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Is It Possible To Love Two Women At The Same Time?

Hi, AskBeloved,
Thanks for the work you’re doing. Please my question is this: Is it possible to love two women at the same time?

Hi Bob, thanks for your question. This is a bit tricky but I’ll answer it to the best of my ability. It is possible to love two women at the same time BUT you cannot be “IN LOVE” with two women at the same time.

If you check within your heart, you’ll definitely discover that you love and have feelings more for one than the other. Using the Bible as a reference, Jacob loved Rachael more than Leah and Elkanah loved Hannah more than Peninnah.

God’s original plan for marriage is one man to one woman or He would have made more Eve’s for Adam in the Garden of Eden. So if you feel that you love two ladies at the same time, take some time to pray about it and truly assess your feelings for both of them. You’ll definitely find out that you really love and have more feelings for one of the ladies.

So you can love two women or even more at the same time but you can actually be in love with one of them. God made it that way.

Remain richly blessed dear..

Monday, April 18, 2011

Ten Errors Singles Waiting-On-God Make(1)..

Having Idols In Your Heart (Ezekiel 14:4):

"Therefore speak unto them, and say unto them, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Every man of the house of Israel that setteth up his idols in his heart, and putteth the stumblingblock of his iniquity before his face, and cometh to the prophet; I the LORD will answer him that cometh according to the multitude of his idols" (kjv)

According to Ezk. 14:4, when you put an idol in your heart and expect God to still answer your prayers for a godly relationship/partner , He will surely answer you according to the idol in your heart and believe me dear, it will not be to your good. You may ask what an idol means – it means forming the type of person you want already in your heart before asking God. For ladies, it could be a tall, handsome, rich, classy guy. For the guys, it could be a drop-dead gorgeous, shapely, brilliant, classy babe.

If this idol is already on your mind, then you’re not really asking God to give you what He wants for you – His perfect will – which is for your own good BUT you're asking Him to give you what you want for yourself – His permissive will – which is not for your own good.

Your daily prayer should be never to be in God’s permissive will but His perfect will for you.

Question: Do you have any idol of the perfect partner in your heart?

Remain richly blessed..

Friday, April 15, 2011

Love Quotes For Your Weekend(5)

What force is more potent than LOVE?

LOVE consists in this; that two solitudes protect, touch and greet each other..

We are shaped and fashioned by what we LOVE..

Perfect LOVE is rare indeed – for to be a true lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar, and the fortitude of the certain..

LOVE is a great beautifier..

At the touch of LOVE, everyone becomes a poet..

Remain richly blessed..

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

A Chorister Is Stealing My Mind..

Re: Overcoming infatuation, love, crush..
Dear AskBeloved,

What you just mentioned is exactly what is killing me. I went to this church and there was this lady who is the member of the choir. Every time I look at her she just draw my attention away and she would be glued in my mind for quite a long time, I cannot realy say she is disturbing me because I manage to get the message of the sermon, but its been a year now.

It fustrates me because its the first time temptations seem to overcome me, and some times having no one to understand what you going through can be realy disturbing. I even decided to change the church I am currently in because its too much for for what I can bear.

But I realy don't know if that would be a valid reason or it would just be a proof of failure I am, and if that is the case I won't let it happen without a fight because I hate losing.

Please advise...

Dear Patrick,

Thanks for bringing this disturbing issue to light. I wonder if it could be crush or infatuation that you're feeling for this lady but none of it will succeed in killing you in Jesus' name, amen!

I will NOT advise you to change churches because that's a sign of failure and for how long will you continue to switch churches whenever you meet such temptations? You can switch seats so that you'll see less of her but DON'T leave the church.

What I'll suggest you do is to really ask yourself what captivates you about this lady that will make her remain glued to your mind for a long time. Then bring it under the searching light of God's Word because He has promised us a way out of any temptation that seems bigger than us.

You will also have to resolve that you would not dwell on her because you have the power over your mind and thoughts and remember that the Bible says that "as a man thinks in his heart, so is he". When she wants to come into your thought, do something useful like working, reading your Bible because an idle mind is the devil's workshop.

Tell yourself and the devil that you must win this battle over your mind and thought whether he likes it or not and believe that in Christ, victory will certainly be yours. I'll uphold you in prayers and you will surely triumph in Jesus' name, amen!

Remain richly blessed..

Words Of Wisdom On Marriage..

Enter into marriage with courage – but with caution.
Take time to do- that which time cannot undo
Think well before you tie-what you cannot untie

Wedlock is a padlock
A padlock is a very useful thing to preserve treasure
But it is terrible to be locked into a marriage much disliked

Tarry, tarry, tarry! Think again before you marry
One might push this tarry too far, but with seldom meet
with such a case.
Most rush into matrimony-like a dog at a piece of meat.
Today married-tomorrow harried!

The frogs in Aesop’s fable were extremely wise:
They greatly needed some water, but they would not leap
into the well
Because they knew they could not get out again.

He who marries a simpleton-is a simpleton!
He did not use sufficient discretion and discernment.
However, simpleton or no simpleton-he’s in for it for life,
And must bear the consequences.

One who marries for beauty alone is as foolish as the man
who ate a bird because it sang so sweetly.
Don’t be fooled by pretty face; look for character and grace.
Blessed is the one who can say, after many years: “I did
Commit no act of folly when I married my sweet molly.”

May God help you to be wise!
Remain richly blessed..

Monday, April 11, 2011

In The Grip Of Pornography And Masturbation..

Dearest sister in Christ..I was reading your note "How to overcome infatuation, lust , crush" etc
I don't know but I am going through something similar.
I am 15 and I like a guy. I've known him since an year and I met him on Facebook.
My mind is occupied with his thoughts and the Bible has commanded us to love God with all of our HEART, SOUL, MIND AND STRENGTH. . . .I try deactivating my account but then I don't know God has been using my account. It may sound weird but I have been posting notes about Jesus and I have friends who are getting saved. This has kept me from deactivating. The guy I like ..has now started taking God seriously and has started anew and I am glad he's saved....but I'm losing my time with God. Worse I have started returning back to my old sins. I was addicted to something very very shameful. I was addicted to pornography and masturbation. . . I repented but now I am falling again. I need to confess it because it's creating a mess in my heart. I need help and I don't know what to do. Please Please help me...I am ashamed and lost. My heart is dull. It's not responding to God properly. I don't feel loved. Please please help me:(

My dearest Heavyheart, I'm so touched by this message cos you chose to confide in me and come public with it and I believe this is the work of the Holy Spirit. I truly understand your predicament more than you could ever know because I've passed through the same thing and the blood of Jesus Christ washed me thoroughly clean and I know that if He can do it for me, then He can do it for you too.

When I was younger, I read romantic and erotic novels, watched pornographic films and masturbated too. I prayed and prayed after each shameful act and after a while, I'll return to those sins again. I later realized through the help of the Holy Spirit that I can never do it on my own strength and you can't too.

I handed it over to Him, destroyed all the corrupt Cd's and stopped reading such novels. Anything that made me think bad and corrupt thoughts had to be done away with because the Bible tells us that "To the pure, all things are pure but to the corrupt, all things are corrupt."

The way you confessed and said it out is very encouraging and a slap to the devil. I never told anyone about this testimony because the act is so dirty and shameful but it's only by confessing that we become free and I thank the Holy Spirit for using you to make me proclaim God's saving grace upon my life. My mess has become my message and yours can become your message too if you will give room to the Holy Spirit!

What I'm saying here is that you can't win this battle on your strength but rather, your deliverance comes in Christ. Discard all corrupt things related to pornography and masturbation and tell it to Jesus that you want and truly desire to be washed in His blood, to remove the dullness in your heart and make you feel loved again. He's waiting to hear from you. By the grace of God, you will surely conquer it the way I did for years and still remain a conqueror in Jesus' name, Amen!!

Finally, I purposely left out your likeness for that guy because liking someone is not bad in itself but when they begin to occupy all our thoughts, then they're stealing God's position because only God must dominate our thoughts.

Don't deactivate your account since you feel strongly that God is using it. Keep up the good work and God's blessings will remain your portion.

Remain richly blessed dear..

Saturday, April 09, 2011

Love Quotes For Your Weekend(4)

For most men, LOVE is a thing apart while for women, it is their whole existence..

Treasure the LOVE you receive above all. It will survive long after you gold and good health has vanished..

What the world really needs is more LOVE and less paper work..

LOVE’s greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred and awesomely beautiful..

Young LOVE is a flame, very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still light and flickering. The LOVE of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep burning, unquenchable..

We LOVE because it is the only true adventure..

Remain richly blessed..

Thursday, April 07, 2011

He's Delaying Proposing To Me..

Hi, AskBeloved, I’ve been in a relationship for 3 going to 4 years now but my guy is yet to make any form of a deeper commitment or marriage proposal and we’re both working now though not in the same country. When I raised the issue over the phone, he got angry with me but it’s been bothering me. Please what should I do as I’m not getting younger and my friends are getting married one-by-one? Thanks.

Hi Ify, thanks for coming here to receive a godly advice for your relationship. This comes down to the role of effective communication in your relationship. I do not believe that he has a right to get angry over an issue that is seriously bothering you.

The tone of voice you used while asking him about the future of your relationship ‘might’ be the reason for his anger because the Bible tells us in the book of Proverbs that a gentle answer turns away wrath.

A relationship without a definition is NO RELATIONSHIP. Here are some questions to ask before entering any relationship; what are we going to benefit from the r/ship? Will we help ourselves to increase our faith in God in this r/ship? Do we foresee a future (marriage) for this r/ship? Etc.

I will also advise you to pray about your relationship and ask God to use this period to reveal to you if your guy is truly the one for you. Secondly, never ever compare yourself with others because our destinies in life are different and it is not how far but how well.

Finally, long distance relationships are hard to maintain which is why you need to talk with him and settle this matter once and for all so that your heart can be at rest.

Remain richly blessed dear..

Wednesday, April 06, 2011

How To Control Your Sexual Urges(3)

We must be careful what we gaze upon and what we listen to. When the flesh yields to sensual distractions, it cannot please God. Guard your senses, as they are the entrance to your human body. Your body is your responsibility.

What your body does or does not do is your responsibility – nobody else’s. You can blame it on your past, your present, or your future. But it still boils down to this: your body is your responsibility. It does not think – it just craves. It mainly wants three things: sex, food and comfort.

These are the three things your physical body wants in large doses and it is “your job” to keep them in check because you’ll definitely give an account of it on the last/judgment day for what shall it profit us to gain all these things of the world and thereby lose our souls. God forbid!

It is never too late to turn to Christ. You can do that now; HE’S WAITING..

Remain richly blessed..

Monday, April 04, 2011

She's Taking My Love And I For Granted..

Hi AskBeloved, I'm in love with a girl I want 2 marry...things were movin fine until recently, she can't visit me anymore & can't allow me visit her in her house again. It's giving me a cause for worry cuz may be she noticed my lov 4 her is growin stronger, and so she now begin 2 take me for granted even on phone calls. What should I do?

Nonso, thanks for your question. My advice is that you should call her and ask her to see you(if you reside in the same town/city with her) so you can have a good talk with her to know what’s bothering her. I’m saying this because “communication” matters a lot in any relationship and sometimes, our minds do not tell us the right things. Your feelings may not be correct so call her and ask her to see you so that this matter will be settled between you guys.

Any relationship without effective communication is bound to fail. If you truly love this girl like you said, then don't give up on her yet or feel she’s taking you for granted because she maybe passing through a phase in her life and needs your understanding.

When you try all these and there seems to be no head-way, then you’ll have to hand it over to God because anything that appears above and beyons us is subject to God’s Authority. Commit her to God and ask Him to take control of the whole situation and that if she's hiding anything from you, He should bring it to light.

Then, you’ll now have to trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Ask the Lord to reveal to you, with this situation, if she's really the right person for you because she may or may not be the right person for you. When you do this, then, wait patiently for God to work all things out for your own good.

I truly understand your hurt and confusion but God understands you more and He's waiting to hear you tell Him everything.

Remain richly blessed.

Saturday, April 02, 2011

Love Quotes For Your Weekend(3)

The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are LOVED..

A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together; it is when an imperfect couple that LOVES each other learns to enjoy their differences.

To LOVE and be LOVED is to feel the sun from both sides..

The entire sum of existence – apart from God of course – is the magic of being truly LOVED and needed by just one person..

You can’t make someone LOVE you, all you can do is to be someone who can be LOVED and the rest is up to the person to realize your worth..

Where true LOVE is concerned, too, much is not even enough..