How To Control Your Sexual Urges(2)

The sexual drive in you was placed there by God. And it is kept in line by boundaries outlined in the Bible, according to moral codes. But the regulating of your physical activity is done by your spirit and your mind.

If you leave your body to yourself, it’ll do what it wants, when it wants, with whomever it wants and not feel guilty. Your soul will feel guilty, and your spirit will feel grieved but your body won’t feel guilty. Your body does not see the wedding band, which signifies that someone is in covenant with another.

If you give your physical body freedom to do what it wants, its only when you wake and your soul comes into check that you have regrets and by then it's already too late. You have to master your body and sexual urges before it leads you straight to hell and we don't want that.

To be continued..
Reemain richly blessed..

How To Control Your Sexual Urges(1)

Our society panders to the sensual. Sex sells, and its dangled before our eyes everywhere we turn. This is probably the number one area of temptation for everybody especially for believers today; both married and unmarried but it hits harder on our youths.

Have you noticed the bill-boards, radio and television adverts, magazines and even the goods we buy? Pictures of semi-nude ladies and gents seem to scream to our senses thereby delicately and sub-consciously heightening the sexual urges in us and before we know it, we’re busy day-dreaming and fantasizing about “prince-charming”( for the ladies) and the “hottest chic” (for the gents) instead of creatively using our minds to propagate the things of God.

Remember the bible warns us in Titus1:15 that “to the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted”. The enemy knows that if he can feed your mind often enough and long enough with the wrong things, he can make you think about and feel only the wrong things. Almost same as what Jesus said in Matthew 12:33-37.

To Be Continued..
Remain richly blessed..

Love Quotes (2)

Here are more love quotes to make your day..

Most times, the heart of LOVE sees what is invincible to the eyes..

The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called LOVE and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you, the world is transformed..

Trouble is part of your life and if you don't share it, then you don't give the person who LOVES you a chance to LOVE you enough..

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people..

From the moment a heart is touched by LOVE, it cannot dry up..

If you have LOVE, you don't need to have anything else but if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have..

Remain richly blessed..

How Long Is Long Enough For Courtship?

How long is long enough for dating b4 marriage?

ANSWER:
Hi Azubuike, you’re welcome to our blog. To begin answering your question, I would assume that the issue has been settled between God and you that she’s the right woman and/or wife for you.

Now as to how long is long, I believe this now depends on you as the man and how buoyant you are. Some people court for three(3) months, some for six(6) and others one(1) year depending on the agreement of both parties.

I’ll suggest that if it’s someone you’ve known for a long time(a childhood friend, primary/secondary or even university), then you can court for three(3) months as there’s nothing that much to know again BUT if it’s someone new, it’s advisable to court for at least six(6) months.

This will enable you guys to know each other better, plan for your wedding and pray for the success of your marriage as a whole because wedding is the day you say "I do" BUT marriage begins after you say "I do".

Remain richly blessed..

How To Know When Someone Is Truly In Love With You

How do u know that a woman is truly in love with u?

ANSWER:
Hi Mulash, knowing when a girl truly loves you lies on your knowledge and understanding of 1Cor.13:4-7. Let me try and describe these verses for you:

In verse 4, if a Christian sister professes to love you, it will show in her deeds; how PATIENT is she? Is she always in a hurry? Always snapping at you? How KIND is she to you and people around her? Does she care more for herself than for you?

Does she ENVY others easily? Does she always demand money from you so that she can continue changing her wardrobe to be like other girls without caring how much you earn? Does she BOAST a lot? People that always boast tend to exaggerate a lot and lie too. Is she PROUD? Making you feel privileged to be in a relationship with her all the time? Does she find it hard to greet and respect you?

In verse 5, you keep evaluating her character. Is she RUDE? Does she talk condescendingly to you? Does she force herself and her opinions on you? Is she SELF-SEEKING? Believing that everything starts, rotates around and ends with her? How does she control her ANGER? Does she easily fly off the handle? Does she KEEP RECORD OF WRONGS? Keeping scores of your mistakes and weaknesses?

In verse 6, you will begin to check if she DELIGHTS IN EVIL rather than REJOICING WITH THE TRUTH. Evil might sound harsh to your eyes but check if she gloats when you offend her and something bad happens to you.

In verse 7 finally, you will check if she always PROTECTS you, always TRUSTS you, always has high HOPES for you, and how she PERSEVERES with and bears your weaknesess.

When the Holy Spirit helps you to answer these questions and check all these things, then you will really know when a lady is truly in love with you.

Remain richly blessed..

Love Qoutes

Here are some nice love quotes to make your day..

LOVE takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within..

The first duty of LOVE is to listen..

Accept the things to which fate binds you, and LOVE the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart..

LOVE cures people, both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it..

Let your LOVE be stronger than your hate or anger. Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break..

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are LOVED - LOVED for ourselves, or rather, LOVED in spite of ourselves..

Remain richly blessed..

Overcoming Infatuation, Lust, Crush..

Overcoming these negative emotions takes much more than just your personal efforts. Most of these emotions especially infatuation and crush often comes in puberty and stays till you defeat it and defeat it you must if you want to worship God with a clean heart.

You have to personally hand it over to God? Emotions are not something you can ever fight on your own. Having feelings for someone is not bad in itself but what you do with/about those feelings will weaken or strengthen you. I pray the following steps will help you to overcome such feeling:

a, Try to think less of that person: When such thoughts come, don’t start day-dreaming and creating fantasies about that person. Instead, become active, you can read your bible and pray or sing aloud to God and with time, believe me, such thoughts will subside.

b, Try never to be in close contact with the person: Don’t pay daily visits to the person you’re trying to overcome feeling for or calling him/her every hour of the day, also avoid being in a room alone with him/her. Give as much space as possible because proximity (close contact) builds feelings that won’t help you at all.

c, Try and get busy: The saying that an idle mind is the devil's workshop is so true, fill your mind with the things of God – meditation and communing with Him. So find something to engage yourself in and believe me, with prayers, you'll surely overcome those feelings.

Remain richly blessed..

Can You Truly Love But Be Without Peace?

What does it mean to be in love but not at peace in your heart about the relationship?


ANSWER:
Hi dear, being in love with someone - really loving someone carries peace with the feeling. So if you're not at peace in your heart about the relationship, then that love comes with a question mark because TRUE love comes with peace.

Infidelity, distrust, doubts can also deny you peace in your heart in a relationship but you're in the best position to answer that. What do you see in that other person or what does she do that troubles your heart and bothers you?

You may try to convince yourself that you really love him/her but something is wrong somewhere and that's why you don't have peace in your heart. It could be that you're in love with the wrong person or you guys are engaging in sexual relations and your conscience is bothered about that.

A good question to ask yourself is this; if you truly love this person, then why are you not at peace with your heart and self? There’s also a possibility of being in lust and not in love with that person. Maybe it’s her beauty, manner of speech, shape etc. that captivates you and this would not give you peace.

You also have to be honest with yourself about the relationship. Do you have plans to marry this person or are you in the relationship just to catch fun and pass time till someone better comes along? All these are bound to bother your conscience and deny you peace.

Finally, table the matter and commit everything to God in prayers because when some issues gets beyond and above us, only Him can bring the hidden things to light and grant peace to our hearts.

Remain richly blessed..

For The Guys.. A Godly Woman

Proverbs 31:30 (NIV). Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised..

Do you want to find a really good woman? Look for one who honors and reveres the LORD with all of her heart, soul, mind, and strength. Appearance, physical strength, and even personality can change and degrade.

BUT a woman whose heart is anchored and enlivened by the presence of God in her life will be a life-long blessing and a woman worthy of our praise, and the praise of her God.

Verse 25 and 26 says "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue". Sadly, most women of our time are beginning to lack this virtues but he who searches well will surely find that rare jewel.

In conclusion, verse 10 says "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies". Never rest and plead your case with God to help you search out this true damsel for only Him truly knows the hearts of all..

Remain richly blessed..

Infidelity In Married Couples

What are the main causes of increase in infidelity between married couples?

ANSWER:
Hi Mulash, Infidelity can be seen as one being unfaithful to his/her sexual partner and there really has been an increase of this vice in many marriages. Some of the causes of infidelity can be seen as follows:

1. Lack of sexual satisfaction: This occurs when one or both partners do not feel sexually satisfied during and after intercourse with the other partner.

2. Money: This happens when one falls prey to a man/woman outside the matrimonial home who offers to settle all their bills if only they will do what he/she asks from them and most times, it’s sex.

3. Greed: This is the insatiable desire in people to possess all things against all odds and they don’t mind the length they go to get it even if it means being unfaithful to their marriage partner.

4. Influence of friends: The kind of friends one keep after marriage can also push him/her into becoming unfaithful to his/her marriage partner.

Regardless of these causes, the major reason infidelity is on the increase is LACK OF CONTENTMENT. We are not content with what we have and there’s nothing the enemy loves as a greedy heart. It serves as an avenue for other vices such as adultery, fornication, stealing, cheating, lying, etc.

The Bible tells us that Godliness with contentment is great gain.
Remain richly blessed..

Why Do Ladies Prefer Money To Love?

Bigger percentage of females are after money and earthly possessions! why are they not guided by love and affection?

ANSWER:
Thanks Mulash for your question. It’s like asking why people commit sin. Majority of people – even believers – pursue earthly things and the riches and glory of this world more than they pursue the things of God’s kingdom.

Most ladies go after money and earthly possessions because, sadly, they believe (in the deceit) that material things will solve all their problems making Heaven here on earth for them (which can never be, but they don’t know this).

So when you present love and affection to them, they see it as if you’re offering “suffering” to them. The devil has succeeding in blinding their eyes to the things that matters most.

How can one be guided by what they rejected. When we refuse God’s love and affection (mostly unconsciously), we cannot easily accept true love and affection from our fellow beings because we have eyes but sadly do not really see with them.

But as a Christian brother, you will recognize a true sister by her values; what she thinks about money and earthly possessions. These things are good to have BUT they should never be our focus in life.

May we all seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto us.

Remain richly blessed..

(For The Ladies)..The Man I Prayed For

Dear God, I prayed,
all unafraid (as we're inclined to do)
I do not need a handsome man
but let him be like You;
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
nor need he be some genius,
or wealthy, Lord at all;
but let his head be high dear Lord,
and let his eyes be clear,
his shoulders straight, whatever his state,
whatever his earthly sphere;
And let his life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal;
then when he comes (as he will come)
with eyes aglow;
I'll understand that he's the man
I prayed for long ago..

A Poem By Ruth Graham

Knowing Your True Love

How can someone know his or her true love?

ANSWER:
Dear Kenny, thanks for visiting and dropping your question here. Finding or knowing your true love is one of the hardest things for humans to achieve. Many people have given so many formulas and at the end, heartbreaks still occur. This happens because we have refused to consult the author of love whose name is God.

The only way of knowing true love for sure is when you allow God to reveal the heart of those who profess to love you and you do this, not by following your feelings/emotions cos they mislead most times but by humbly praying and asking God for wisdom to know the right person.

The last issue I treated on the acronym of the words "I LOVE YOU" will equally be of help to you. Let me summarize it a bit for you:
I stands for INTEGRITY - anyone who professes to love you cannot cheat on and lie to you.
L stands for LISTEN - he/she must listen well and must pay attention when being talked to.
O stands for OBEDIENCE - must be obedient to you whether you are the elder or younger one.
V stands for VALUE - anyone who professes to love you must value you and be honest too.
E stands for ENDURANCE - true love endureth all things(no room for impatience).
Y stands for YEARN - to yearn means to be compassionate and filled with tenderness not lust.
O stands for OPENHANDED - must not be stingy with money, time, energy, intellect etc.
U stands for UPRIGHT - must be upright and accountable in all things.

This may look like a fantasy but it's not. The person must not be perfect in all of them but must exceed at least 60% in these virtues and it's only those whose lives are hidden in Christ that have these attributes so in essence, only "genuine" not fake born-again Christians can really show true love to others.

The surest and best way of knowing your true love is by allowing God to search the hearts of those who profess to love you and give you the genuine one among them or someone else entirely. But you should be prepared to wait on Him and forsake all sins.

Remain richly blessed dear

Anything Like Christian "Romancing"?

Is it right for a christian brother to be in a relationship with a girl and also to romance a girl?

ANSWER:
The answer is NO. It is not right for a Christian brother to be in a relationship with a girl except both of you are in a courtship agreement. A Christian brother can have lady friends who should be treated as sisters in the Lord. But when it comes to picking a particular sister for a relationship, it becomes very risky because you are not yet ready or you cannot guarantee that you must marry her.

Secondly, romancing a girl should not be in the dictionary of any body who calls himself a Christian brother(the same applies to all Christian ladies). The girl's body as well as your own is God's property/temple and we are all bought at a price which is the blood of Jesus Christ.

Never go beyond boundaries. Treat her as a sister with all purity(1Tim.5:1-2) because the Bible warns that anyone who defiles the temple of God, him shall God destroy(1Cor.3:16-17). Please do not use your today to spoil or destroy your tomorrow. Be holy even as your Heavenly Father is holy.

Matthew 5:27-30, Luke 16:12 and 1Thess.4:3-7 will also help you to understand the stand a Christian ought to take in these matters. Submit all desires to God and He will help you overcome those temptations. Flee from fornication, resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Remain richly blessed..

Accepting A Proposal From A Lady

SHOULD I ACCEPT A PROPOSAL FROM MY CHRISTIAN SISTER AS WE WILL ALL BE 23 YEARS THIS YEAR?

ANSWER:

Hi Emma,
I appreciate your honesty about listing your ages. First of all, I do not believe that a lady should propose to you. You are the one to do the proposing because the Bible records in the book of Proverbs that “He” who finds a wife, not “she” and It also said in Genesis that “a man” will leave his parents and cleave to his wife not “a woman”.

Secondly, I will advise you to hold on a bit and pray more because your age is quite tender for marriage deliberations if you get what I mean. Are you really and fully ready to marry now at the age of twenty-three(23)?

Remember, a man must leave his parents and cleave unto his wife. Do you stay alone in your own apartment? Do you have a steady job with which you can maintain or take care of a family? Are you both established in the faith?

The lady might truly be God’s will for you in marriage when you pray about it BUT your home may still be full of troubles if both of you are not yet matured in the Lord. Wisdom needs to be applied in every stage of our lives.

Remain richly blessed..

Who Has The Final Say On Who We Marry? Parents?

SHOULD ONES PARENTS DECIDE THE ONE TO MARRY OR BE MARRIED BY?

ANSWER:
The answer to your question Paul, is NO. Our parents are not to decide who we must marry even though their advice is very necessary and important. As Christians, God has the final say on who we are to marry and not our parents.

But that does not mean we are to disobey our parents outrightly. If we are sure God has approved of someone we wish to marry and yet, our parent(s) are still opposing it, we are not to forcefully do what we want but it calls for more prayers so that God can turn their hearts cos the hearts of kings are in His hands.

Our parents objecting to our choice of a partner and deciding who we are to marry sometimes (though not very often) can be God directing us too but we must pray about it so God can fully reveal His plans for our lives.

Remain richly blessed..

Can You Marry A Lady You Helped To Abort Pregnancy?

Can you marry a lady you helped to abort pregnancy belonging to another man who deny ownership of the baby?

ANSWER:
Yes, you can marry a lady you helped to abort pregnancy belonging to another man who denied ownership of the baby BUT on one condition - that you BOTH REPENT and confess the sin to Christ because abortion is a sin and should be regarded as such.

After a genuine heart-felt confession and repentance, then believing that Christ Jesus has forgiven you, you must never support such act again or in any way condone it. Then, you can now go ahead to marry and put the past behind you because that's where it belongs.

The power to save and forgive belongs to God and there's no sinner He will cast out once you confess and repent of those sins. He said in Ezekiel that He does not want the death of a sinner but that the sinner should repent and come unto Him. Jesus also said in the gospel of St. John that He will never cast out WHOEVER comes to Him.

Remain richly blessed..

The "U" in I Love You

"U" stands for "UPRIGHT". The Oxford Advanced Dictionary defines the word "upright" as 'behaving in a moral and honest way'. Based on this, when you profess to love someone, how upright are you towards him/her?

Do you say you love and yet, cheat on your partner?,Pressure or seduce them into sleeping with you when you know that your body is the temple of God?, Use tricks and lies to drain them of their hard-earned money? How up to standard are your moral ethics and honesty or do you see them as outdated?

If Christ hadn't been upright, maybe we would have an excuse but our Lord was upright and honest and as his disciples we are called to do likewise. So when you want to utter those words - I Love You, make sure you are ready to abide by all it entails because on the last day, we would be held accountable for each word we utter.

Finally, we need to ask God to really help our heart to love others as He loves us so that when we utter those words, people would really see it in our actions and not only our words.

May God help us all to live and love like Him in Jesus' priceless name, amen!

Why Is He Not Straightforward?

Hi beloved, God bless you for the words of wisdom coming from you. My question is this;
I really love a certain guy and I know that he really loves me. We're yet to meet and he has a passion for God(a minister).
The problem is that he always avoid answering direct questions and does not want to take a stand on the relationship and I end up asking and probing him for answers.He says he's not in a relationship but his page on facebook says he is.
Am I doing the right thing and can he be said to be serious? Thanks.

ANSWER:


I'll have to be very honest with you dear. Most times, our feelings or emotions blind us from seeing some certain things. The man shouldn't be playing tricks or hide and seek with you because a man of God should be full of integrity and should have a straight-forward life.

I'm not comfortable at all with the way he silently allows you to take the lead in the relationship because the Bible says that HE who finds a wife, not SHE who finds a husband. When it comes to life or marriage issues, thinking does not have a role but actual certanity that he's the man.

He ought to know all these things as a minister of God and what he should do is to come out boldly and tell you what's on his mind or what God revealed to him about you and then, ask you to pray about it for God's confirmation too. Now, what you have to do is to ask him to tell you his stand and no beating around the bush. If he says nothing, then you have to take it to God in prayers and most times, it's not a must you'll hear audibly from God but when God confirms a man, He brings peace and from your question, the peace is not there and that's why you're worried.

Do u know that if your heart is not right, worshipping God becomes very hard? So, why allow anyone to play with your heart and emotions? I'm not saying the man is not honest though. All I'm saying is that he should come out and tell you his plans for the relationship so you can know your stand in the whole thing. So, commit the conversation to God and ask the Holy Spirit to take over, then call him and discuss with him. It would have been better if you guys can see(please beware of internet relationships) but nevertheless, a call would still be okay.

Remain richly blessed..

Courtship Durability

Advisably, which one of this is better? short-time relationship before marriage, or long-time relationship before marriage?

ANSWER:
Abdron, short-term and long-term means different things to different people. To some, two(2) months is short while to some others, it might be long so I'll say here that it depends on the parties involved and their readiness.

But most authors and some men/women of God advocate for at least six(6)months courtship between intending couples to enable them know each other better, attend counselling sessions and plan towards their marriage.

Some still advocate for a year courtship but prolonging it too much may end up bringing in some vices into the relationship such as lying and pretense. In all, you can still pray to God to give you the go-ahead.

Remain richly blessed..

Can A Man Marry A Lady With An Issue?

Can a man marry a lady with an issue? and is it Biblical?

ANSWER:
Yes one can marry a lady with an issue if that lady is born again and a confirmed believer in Christ. The issue came from her past life but in Christ, we are all new creatures and old things have passed away as all things are now new.

Coming to the question of if it's Biblical, it might not be stated in the Bible explicitly but that doesn't make it wrong or else you'll be in danger of doubting the cleansing power of our Lord Jesus Christ and that is why I'm stressing truly hearing from God before taking any step in marriage.

Thanks Abdron for your question and remain richly blessed..

Answering A Marriage Proposal

How long should it take a lady to answer a proposal?

ANSWER:
Thanks Chris for your question. The answer is "As long as it takes God to convince or confirm it in her heart". Once you're very sure that God has spoken to you and confirmed the lady as your wife, then be prepared to prayerfully wait as God confirms you in her own heart too.

Patience is greatly required here because you just have to wait and you can also help her by praying for her and asking God to minister it to her heart. At God's own time, He'll surely confirm it in her heart cos our Lord is not a God of confusion.

But if it starts taking years and she still says she's not sure, doesn't trust you enough or haven't yet heard from God, then I'll advice you go back on your knees to commune with your Creator to make sure you heard correctly from Him because sometimes, our desires blind our eyes.

Remain richly blessed..

Must God Choose Our Marriage Partners For Us?

Did God really create someone in particular we must marry?

ANSWER:
Since God knew us while we were yet in the womb, He also knows who our life-partners are but until we commit all to Him, we're bound to make mistakes most times. You can meet a lady and desire to marry her but you must present it to God and wait for Him to confirm it before proceeding.

In another way, His unseen hands also guides us and when we remain and bear fruits in Him, even without hearing from Him, our minds are so aligned to His that we still make choices but in truth, He's the one actually making the right choices in us and at the end, all was done according to His will.

But when we walk by sight and are captivated by beauty, fame, status, wealth etc., then it becomes hard to listen to God because those things have become an idol in our hearts. So, Yes, our Father in Heaven has a special person to us to marry because He alone sees the future and when we walk with and obey Him, everlasting joy becomes our portion..

My God-chosen Suitor's Mother Is A Witch!

I want to do the will of God.
I met a guy who wants to marry me and after much prayers, more than two witnesses confirmed that he's the man God has chosen for me. The problem is that they also revealed that the guy's mother is a witch and that she will make things hard for me if I don't go her way. My family said I should leave him because of his mother's witchcraft. What should I do? (A question I treated today on facebook)

ANSWER:
My dear, if you're really sure and God has also personally confirmed it to you that the guy is His choice for you, then go ahead and fear no man. When God asks you to go ahead, he equips you with all you'll need and remember that the Bible says that 'when a man finds favour with the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him'.

So fear God who has the over-all power and authority than man who has nothing and can do nothing except that which our Lord permits.
Commit it to God in prayers and He'll make your paths clear. Do not be afraid for the Lord is with you BUT be sure it is the Lord that confirmed him.

Remain richly blessed dear..