Hi AskBeloved. A friend asked this question and I would like to know what you think of it; is it okay to tell your girlfriend everything about your bad past life before you met her? What of if you have robbed or murdered someone in the past?
Hi John, thanks for seeking a second opinion about this issue. I will say that it is NOT okay to tell your girlfriend everything about your sordid past because it is not everybody you enter a relationship with that you confide in. The person I will advise you to totally confide in is your fiancée who will later become one with you.
Some girlfriends are not trustworthy and can take what you told them in confidence to the gossip mill when you guys break-up. Before you know it, everybody must have known about your past and even use it to make snide remarks about you or insult you out-rightly with such personal information.
But your fiancée will understand that your past is in the past and probably before you met God and since then, old things have passed away and all things have become new. This will make her appreciate your courage for telling her your shameful past and she will help you keep it where it ought to be – in the PAST!
This is why I always advice youths to seek God’s counsel in choosing a mate because anyone in Christ understands better, the weakness of man, the strength of God and the power and totality of His restoration. From such a person, keep no secrets.
Remain richly blessed dear