Monday, September 24, 2012
How To Handle Your Sexual Feelings.. By Samson Ajilore..
Sex sells! And it does because it is one of the three strongest human appetites, which are:
1. The appetite for sleep,
2. The appetite for food
3. And the appetite for sex
The first two comes at birth but the last is awakened at puberty stage. God has it all well planned.
Now the problem is that we are often tempted to awaken love before it’s time, we’re tempted to follow the way of the world and start practicing pre marital sex because the world says it’s okay and perverted societies teaches us that it’s normal as long as we use protection. They don’t even care if our
spirit gets defiled or our minds gets wounded as long as we don’t catch infection in our body, how ridiculous. The truth is that sex isn’t something that’s meant to be tasted once and forgotten about. So if we get deceived into it once, it becomes harder for us to cope without having sex over and over again before marriage. Now if we decide to dance with the world and practice sex before marriage it will bring us so much sorrow and pain. God warns us three times in the Songs of Solomon not to awaken love before the right time, “Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don't excite love, don't stir it up, until the time is ripe--and you're ready” (SOS 2:7; 3:5; 8:4 MSG).
SEX INVOLVES MORE THAN THE BODY
Sex isn’t just physical and emotional, it’s also mental and spiritual. It’s not just that the body gets bound in bed, the soul also is bound. When your soul is bound wrongly or to someone who is going to couple his or her soul to another tomorrow, probably because the fellow must have lost interest, this might get you into some sort of emotional trauma. You will feel used, cheated, ashamed and then you will find out that it’s not really worth it. Then sex will not really be pleasing because it will be like a fish outside the water, an untamed appetite bringing you torments. Sex in itself is beautiful and when it was created, the Creator set the bond of marriage as its place of practice. But since after the fall back in the Garden of Eden, humans began to practice everything the reversed way and this is responsible for most of the problems in the world today. Concerning this I wrote in the second part of my Women Liberation book ‘Mercy Said No’:
“God designed that a man (male human) shall leave his parents and stick together with his wife and the two of them shall become one flesh. They are one equal being separated into two parts for the purpose of partnership in love. Since the day of their separation, one part has always been balanced by the help of the other part because they were never meant to find ultimate fulfillment alone. They must come together to form a whole. This is a great mystery and the reason why sex is so strong; it is the glorious reunion of two dependent halves which were put apart at creation, and each-time they come together, they can be satisfied through mingling to consume their accumulated dissatisfactions, and in that climax, they can reproduce. Within that their intimate copulation lays their vital satisfaction as well as their inbuilt ability to reproduce. There is no wonder He that made the humankind in the beginning made them both male and female! However, if love is removed from that glorious reunion, and if sex is practiced outside the divine order of its Designer (the bond of marriage), then it will be an inglorious reunion, giving birth to diverse hurts and regrets.”