Can A Marriage Be Blessed If One Of The Partners Committed Adultery In A Previous Marriage??

Dear Beloved, Can A New Marriage Still Be Blessed If At One Point One Of The Individuals Committed Adultery In A Previous Marriage? Or Will The New Marriage Be Cursed And Suffer. Example: A Husband Is Still Legally Married But Been Separated From His Wife For Over A Year. The Wife Had Moved On During The Separation And About 2 Years Into The Separation Became Pregnant By Another Man/Boyfriend. 

The Husband Had Moved On To Dating Another Woman During The Separation And Lived Out Of The Home. He Stayed Married To His Wife, Because She Would Make Up Excuses About Signing Divorce Papers, And Would Always Threaten To Keep His Daughter Away From Him Over Trivial Reasons. So, He Tried To Keep The Peace By Keeping The Divorce Topic To A Minimum To The Wife, Although She Had Already Moved On With Another Man Herself. The Divorce Finally Took Place Once The Wife Began To Cooperate, After She Became Pregnant By Her Boyfriend. At That Point She Brought Signed Divorced Papers To The Husband. 

All The While During The Separation The Married Man Carried A Relationship With A New Woman, And Now Him And The New Woman That Dated For 4 Years Of The Separation Are Married. Both Love God. Will This New Marriage Be Blessed, Or Will There Be Bad Karma/Punishment Because They Did Not Wait To Date, And Carried On During A "Separated But Married" Time? How Should The New Wife, Who Really Honors Marriage Proceed With Confidence In Her Marriage, When She Was Technically Wrong For Dating Her Now Husband, When He Was Still Previously Married On Paper?

                                  

ANSWER:

My Dear Sister, In Answering Your Questions, I’ll Use The Scriptures Expressly So That This Matter Will Be Objectively Addressed. First Of All In Mal.2:13-14, God Refused To Answer Their Prayers Nor Accept Their Offerings Because He Is The Witness Between Him And The Wife Of His Youth Which He Has Broken Faith With. She’s His Partner, The Wife Of His Marriage Covenant.

Going Down Further To Verses 16 Of The Same Verse, The Lord God Of Israel Himself Said “I Hate Divorce…” In The Conclusion Of That Verse, We Were Warned To Guard Our Spirit And Do Not Break Faith. So Let It Be Clear First Of All That God Hates Divorce ‘Cos He Takes The Wedding Covenant Very Seriously.

Now, Let’s Go Over To 1Cor.7:10-11 Which Said “To The Married I Give This Command(Not I But The Lord): A Wife Must Not Separate From Her Husband. But If She Does, She Must Remain Unmarried Or Else Be Reconciled To Her Husband. And A Husband Must Not Divorce His Wife”. That Word ‘Must’ Is A Very Strong Word So Even Separation As We Just Read Is A No, No.

Jesus Himself Said In Matt.19:3-10 That Moses Allowed Divorce Because Of The Hardness Of The People’s Heart But From The Beginning, It Was Not So. He Said No

Man Should Separate What The Lord Has Joined Together And The Clause For Divorce Is On The Grounds Of Marital Unfaithfulness Of Which He Has Given Us A New Heart To Forgive ALL Wrongs Done To Us; Even Adultery!

He Said In Verse 11 Of The Same Chapter That “Not Everyone Can Accept This Word, But Only Those To Whom It Has Been Given”. This May Be A Hard Teaching And Many People Even Men And Women Of God May Not Accept It But That Does Not Change The Word Of God. I Will Say It Again: Marriage Is No Child’s Play ‘Cos It’s A Covenant That God As A Witness Doesn’t Joke With!

Finally, From Issue You Shared With Us, The Husband And Wife Both Did Wrong By Having Extra Marital Affairs And Before God, That’s Adultery Which Is The 7th Commandment. The New Wife Also Did Wrong By Having An Affair With A Married Man But In All, Prayers And Genuine Repentance Will Return Them All To The Loving Hands Of Our Lord Almighty And He Will Direct Their Steps Afresh In Jesus’ Name, Amen!