Dear
Beloved, I Am In A Distance Relationship With A Young Man Since Last Year While
We Both Were Serving As A Youth Corpers. By God's Grace We Are Believers But We
Are Not Of The Same Tribe. We Used To Have Misunderstanding Then Due To His
Attitude Of Not Being That Caring And His Unfaithfulness Because He Used To Ask
Some Sisters Out Which I Knew About Two Then Before We Finished Our Service. This
Really Caused A Big Problem Between Us Cos I Couldn't Believe That He Will Do
Such Thing And It Really Broke My Heart And I Wanted To Break The Relationship
But He Pleaded And I Accepted Him Back. Something Happened Recently That Made
Me To Reflect On What He Did To Me In The Past And I Started Telling Him That
He Did Not Love Me Because I Will Not Be The One That Will Be Reminding Him To
Call Me, Then He Said That I Used To Remind Him Of The Pain He Caused Me And
For This Reason, I Should Follow My Mind And He Wished My Well. I Was Shocked
That Truly This Man Did Not Love Me As He Professed To Me; And He Even Proposed
To Me. I Now Accept My Fate That I Will Not Force Him To Love Me But The
Problem I Have Now Is That I Can't Even Let Him Go Out Of My Mind And Heart, I
Feel Depressed And Bitter Now. I Regret Ever Knowing Him Because He Made Me To
Compromise Last Year On Pre-Marital Sex Which I Have Vowed Never To Indulge In Again
Till I Get Married. So Right Now I Feel Used, Dumped And Frustrated. Please
Tell Me How I Can Fight Against This Regret And Bitterness Am Into Now. Please
Help Me ‘Cos Am Emotionally Down. God Bless You.
ANSWER:
My
Dear, I Was Really Touched As I Read Your Message But What Has Happened Has
Happened And You Simply Need To Move Forward With Your Life 'Cos I Know That The
Brother Is Already Moving On With His Life. From What You Said About Him, I Wonder
The Kind Of Believer That Would Be Asking Some Sisters Out When He’s In A
Relationship With You.
Now
On Woman To Woman, Let Me Tell You Something About Our Emotional Make-Up Which
I Feel You Might Have Known Already, We Are Too
Tender And Emotional And God
Knew Why He Made Us That Way And That's Why We Have To Hide Our Softness In Him
Till He Brings Our Husband To Us. Don’t Cast Your Pearls On A Swine(s) ‘Cos It/They’ll
Trample On It!
Allowing
Yourself To Fall Into The Sin Of Pre-Marital Sex With Him Was Because You Caved
In To Your Feelings/Emotions Which Ought NOT To Control You But Right Now,
Please Don't Feel Depressed, Used, Dumped And Frustrated 'Cos What Happened Is
Now In The Past And It’s Better Left There!
Go
Back To God In Prayers And Sincerely Tell Him How You're Feeling - Pour Out
Your Heart To Him And Ask The Holy Spirit To Come And Comfort You And I Know He
Will{If You're Born Again} 'Cos I've Once Been In This Kind Of Situation, Cried
Myself To Sleep After Praying And When I Woke Up, I Just Knew The Holy Spirit
Has Begun His Work And That's How I Fully Recovered.
I
Will Be Praying For You And Please Do Read Phil.3:13-14, Meditate On It,
Memorize It And I Believe The Lord Will Help You Rise Above Your Emotions To
Become Its Master Rather Than Its Slave In Jesus’ Name, Amen. Blessings!
Good answer, Chinenye. I don't have any more to add. More of His wisdom!
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot PreciousAY. Much blessings to you dear :)
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